I was drawn to him the first time I saw him. He was so good looking and everything about him makes me really nervous. The way he looked at me. The way he smiled at me. The way he was teasing me. My heart was beating faster every time our ways crossed and every time our eyes met. I felt this deep and intense connection which I’ve never felt before in my life. My blood was pulsing through my veins and for milliseconds I felt like I couldn’t breathe. I felt so ridiculous. Obviously, I couldn’t be in love. I didn’t even know him. I wasn’t 12 anymore.
We enjoyed talking and being around each other, a lot. He was one of my supervisor in my first organic chemistry lab practice, so we were basically seeing each other every day for several weeks. He actually was the first who taught me about column chromatography. Doesn’t sound super romantic, but it kind of was for me though. Since we’re both dating other people at that time we haven’t really seen each other outside of university. Except for PHD celebration parties or other university related events. Nevertheless we both felt that special connection which was really intense. And without giving away more intimate details – It’s been complicated and dangerous every time we met. I had a crush on him ever since I first saw him. It was just bad timing!
Well. This was the beginning of our story.
Fast forward to 2015.
We finally set up a date to meet each other. I just got out of a long relationship and actually didn’t even know if he was still in one when he asked me to come visit him in Munich. I didn’t hesitate one second even though I wasn’t sure what I was going to put myself through. We really didn’t know each other very well. But I knew I wanted to finally listen to my heart and do what I was feeling deep down inside of me, the whole time. I swore to myself not do anything stupid and also wait before jumping right into the next relationship. But I also didn’t want to overthink it and I had no idea what he wanted. Maybe he wasn’t looking for a relationship either. I was so nervous finally seeing him again after 6 months.
He picked me up at the train station after he got back from a business trip, I think it was India. It was pretty clear right off the bat that that spark we’d had the last years was still there and we’d just needed the right timing.
He took me out for dinner, we had some pizza and beer, and had the best time together. The only thing I knew after that weekend was that I wanted to see him again.
Since then not a day has passed that we haven’t spoken or texted. He’s smart, confident and funny and I love spending time with him, so much! I never knew what my “type” was, but I know now that he is my type – like 110%. At first, it was a little unclear wether it was something casual or not. But we couldn’t go one day without texting each other and we both couldn’t wait to see each other again. I still love looking back to those few months when we started dating, it was sooooo exciting, and I had like a million butterflies in my belly.
We became a couple a few months later. 5 months later we got engaged and then 2 months later we got married!
“When you know, you know” and I truly believe in it. I remember exactly when the whole world was questioning our relationship. Everyone was judging us (except for my family!) because we didn’t really dated a long time before getting real serious (engagement & marriage). Saying yes to spending the rest of my life with him was the best decision I’ve made. I never felt so sure about anything before. The moment I first kissed him, I knew that he was the one I want to spend the rest of my life with. I just felt it. He brings out the best in me and I love him with every beat of my heart. Now – more than ever. He’s the best and most caring father to our two precious boys and he’s the most supportive husband. I am so thankful to have such an amazing man by my side. Even though I don’t wear any make-up and I’m in my yoga pants all day, most of the time covered in puke. Even though I am not as flexible and crazy as I was before and even though I snap more often and having hormonal mood swings, he is never upset with me, he is there for me – always. He makes me feel safe and he gives me so much strength and support.
Thank you for loving every bit of me, even the darkest side!
So much has changed but also we’re still the same. My love for you will always continue to grow. It was always you – I had a crush on you ever since we first met. I still can’t believe I got to spend the rest of my life with you, I still can’t believe that I am so lucky to have found my soulmate, the love of my life. We were made for each other. You’re my fate. I love you beyond words!
— now, who wants to hear the story from his perspective, raise your hand!🙌
Photos by Whitney Alexander Smith